There are those who can not pass a day without a few tears and there are those who avoid the experience and save it for rare moments. For the vast majority, however, it is not unusual to cry, and in fact both sexes cry more than people might think. In the United States for example women cry on average 3.5 times a month and men cry on average 1.9 times a month, but we are not the only ones crying here.
“Crying is not unique to humans. Evolutionarily it supports making good contact with the person who cares for and protects you,” says Dr. Miriam Fink Lavie, child and adolescent psychiatrist, director of mental health in the Jerusalem district of Leumit Health Services, “by crying – the baby Communicates the initial communication with the parents to try and clarify what he is going through. ”Here are some facts that are interesting to know about the moment the emotion comes out.
Feeling relieved after crying? Your’e right
The sense of relief that accompanies crying is a known and familiar feeling and has a reason. “Crying causes the secretion of substances that alleviate suffering. Crying actually creates a parasympathetic sedation for the powerful emotions. This is also related to a substance that is in tears in high concentration and so it also leaves the body through tears.
Sometimes you should give up the pacifier
Toddlers and children cannot complain as most of us do, so they exhibit a wide range of emotions through a biological mechanism that allows them to express themselves – crying. Parents can sometimes help children explain in words what is the reason for crying and look for solutions, but often they will have a hard time dealing with the crying of the baby or toddler and will look for a solution – whether it is a bottle, pacifier, candy, etc. “Excessive use of eating or pacifying to calm can create complications in the child’s communication with the environment,” says Dr. Fink Lavie. “Crying is a proper mechanism and a way for the child to express himself, helping him reduce stress.
There are also physiological benefits
“Crying clears the eyes, and is definitely anti-bacterial, moisturizes membranes and contributes to sharper vision,” says Dr. Fink Lavie.
You are less likely to be in prolonged states of anxiety or depression
“Studies have shown that those who know how to cry and use crying have a higher ability to express emotions and regulate emotions and therefore are less likely to go into prolonged states of depression or anxiety.”
Cry a lot? There is a good chance you are creative people
Dr. Lavie Fink notes that “an open atmosphere that encourages the sharing of negative emotions can allow for increased creative processes and motivation to use frustration or anger in a way that promotes problem solving both socially and in the workplace. A positive atmosphere without legitimacy to express negative emotions sometimes suppresses creativity and the ability to promote an organization or idea. In addition, many artists had a high level of emotion that pushed them to artistic expression and demonstrate creativity. “
Crying is a cultural matter
“There are cultures where crying is less common. In Russia, for example, it was much less common to cry, in Germany and in some European countries. The social norm in these countries is to silence your crying even when you are a child.”
Is it better to sleep after crying?
According to Dr. Fink Lavie, crying before children’s sleep helps them relax and allows others to help them fall asleep. “Babies who cry before bed, sleep better. Crying causes the release of substances such as oxytocin and endorphins – these are substances that make you feel good, increase wall bing and help reduce pain. These are the same substances that are released after running or sports. That’s why when it hurts, we cry to relieve ourselves. ”
Crying and expressing emotions enhances creativity
“An open atmosphere that encourages the sharing of negative emotions can allow for increased creative processes and motivation to use frustration or anger in a way that promotes problem solving both socially and in the workplace. A positive atmosphere without legitimacy to express negative emotions sometimes suppresses creativity and ability to promote organization or idea. “High emotionality that pushed them to artistic expression and creativity. Once silenced, crying or negative emotions can prevent the child from being able to learn how to solve problems and reach creative solutions.”
A negative reaction to a child’s crying damages his self-image
“10 percent of children experience emotional regulation, they cry a lot, they have a hard time relaxing and they do not sleep in a row,” says Dr. Fink Lavie. Their authenticity. “If a child is crying, or he is trying to get attention through it, you can try to understand with him when it happens to him, whether it is when he is tired or bored, to work with him on ways to cope.”
Who cries more, women or men?
“Studies show that by the age of 11 or so girls and boys cry as often and then crying decreases in boys but this is attributed to a socio-cultural response and not to hormonal differences,” adds Dr. Fink Lavie.