Feel that the cliché “my head hurts” has exhausted itself? You’re probably right. A new study has found the main problem among half of couples is embarrassment. It turns out that no headache pill can address the fact that couples are too embarrassed to talk about their sex for a variety of reasons such as: lack of time, lack of appropriate vocabulary and sexual anxiety.
According to a study conducted by the dating and couples dating app Paired among 4,000 Americans and Britons, it was found that couples have a hard time discussing what they like and dislike in the bedroom. 42% of respondents testified there is one thing their partner does on a regular basis that lowers their entire libido in an instant. One in ten people admitted that it happens every time they enter the bedroom. The findings found that 35% of participants did not talk about the large elephant in the room. 23 percent complained about premature ejaculation and 23 percent claimed that their partner was selfish in bed.
Thus, unsurprisingly, the study also found that respondents were reluctant to reveal and have an open conversation about their sexual fantasies and desires, even though 23% of them were happy to talk about sex toys going to bed, while 19% fantasize about having sex instead. public.
What is certain is that the unwillingness to talk causes couples to have less successful sex. 18% of respondents claimed that they were not happy with their sex life, and slightly less than half of them claimed that although they do enjoy sex, they think it could be much better. 13% of people said they would be happy if the partner was open to new sex positions and diversity.
So what prevents many of them (and us) from sharing these desires with our spouses?
“Discussing sex with your partner can be challenging because it requires vulnerability,” explains Dr. Marissa T. Cohen, Paired Relationship Manager. “Directly with the fear that God forbid it will be perceived as rejection.”
Dr. Cohen also offers tips on how to deal with the situation: “Focus on your thoughts, feelings and needs. Avoid making assumptions about your partner and stop judging. Focus on what you want or want more, over what you do not want. And most importantly, avoid comparing your relationship to others. “