How do you tell a person the worst?

Eli Sharabi, Or Levi and Ohad Ben -Ami who were released yesterday (Saturday) from Hamas, underwent physical torture and experienced psychological abuse and terrorism for 491 days of war. Upon their return to Israel, some also had to deal with unbearable reality, when they were informed of the death of their close family members – Orr did not know for sure that his wife Einav was murdered and Eli Sharabi did not know that his wife and his two daughters were murdered.Dr. Idit Gutman, A clinical psychologist from Tel Aviv University, explains in an interview withmako Health how to make a situation where to announce to people who have been hell while speaking in captivity that their family members are no longer alive: “In general, according to the so -called” protocol in a bitter line, “in the first stage, they ask them what they know and why they are exposed. Then, they know them The fact that there is an unpleasant line.

“A natural response to difficult situations causes those who experienced them to disengage from reality through similar feelings that the hard event does not happen”

Dr. Idit Gutman

The mind disconnects from the body in such a situation

Dr. Gutman notes a recognized psychological phenomenon that may characterize such a traumatic condition. “Medical forces are prepared for the possibility of severe dissociation. This is a natural response to severe situations, which causes them to experience them to disengage from reality through imaginary feelings that the hard event does not happen to them personally. Sometimes it is expressed in everything that is not an emotional understanding, in the feeling that you are watching a movie or reality that is external to you and sometimes even fainting – this is a natural response of the brain that actually faces a reality that is almost impossible to deal with. ”

When we asked her if such a situation could be survived at all, Gutman replied that “history shows that even people who have had difficult situations in the Holocaust or captivity have been able to survive, but they will never return to being who they were, and they will need long and long restoration. Hard and prolonged, but anyone who has been through such a cruel and difficult period will likely suffer from any disorder. ”

She said that they could find meaning through different tools. “Some can draw forces from the people who worked and fought for them, some will realize that they are the only ones left to take care of the children and they will find the mental forces because they will understand that they have no choice and some will find comfort among other Shavi who experienced similar situations. What exactly is going through them. ”

In conclusion, Dr. Gutman says that she is afraid of what we are expected to see later. Unfortunately, every day that passes increases the chance that we will see more and more such difficult images and even more. Therefore, the precedent the abductors are likely to be able to see them in a situation that at least allows any rehabilitation. ”